What are the causes of the high divorce rate in the United States? is my newest topic question for my ten page paper.
In class today, I met with Rachael Heath and she probed me for information on my topic…
Rachael began by asking me, “Why should I care about the high divorce rate?” I answered that 90% of Americans get married and if 50% of those marriages fail, your personal happiness is at stake here, people (Wolfinger)!
Most people see marriage as a way to be close to another person when they crave intimacy and want companionship. The way I see marriage is that marriage is a life time (and beyond) experience that is more than just feel good right now. It pains my heart to see so many couples call it quits because they’ve “fallen out of love.” I don’t believe you can fall out of love, I believe either one, you weren’t ever in love or two, you’ve let time heal your wounds and you’re lying about not being in love anymore.
It surprised me that children of divorce are at least 50% likely to get divorced in their own marriages (Wolfinger). I mean, I assumed that children of divorce would find it more acceptable to get divorced because they’ve seen it done before (and potentially became desensitized to the idea) but 50% or more is astounding to me! (And it should be to you too!)
My main points, so far anyway, are that the divorce rate is so high because of societal shifts, economic changes, and problematic individual circumstances.