My Inquiry Question for my Research Proposal is:
What is the popular opinion regarding stay at home moms in this modern day?
My primary purpose for my Research Proposal is to EXPLORE. Some additional questions that interest me would be:
- What do the majority of men think, in this modern day, of women staying at home to raise babies?
- What was the popular opinion regarding stay at home moms 50 years ago?
- 100 years ago?
- 500 years ago?
- Are there any groups that are anti stay at home moms?
- Are there any groups that advocate for stay at home moms?
- What are some professions where women are essentially stay at home moms but still make money?
- Do children suffer if they don’t have a stay at home parent?
- What are some alternatives to having a stay at home parent?
- Will gay marriage affect stay at home parenting?
- Has the number of mr. mom’s increased since the rise of feminism and the right for women in the workplace?
- Do women really make less than men in the workplace for the same job (with the same education level)?
- What is the popular opinion, in this modern day, of women regarding women in the workplace?
- What are the duties of a stay at home mom?
- Do kids prefer a stay at home parent vs a workaholic parent?
- How can couples, especially couples with kids!, survive with only one parent working?
- What are transferrable skills the average home maker has that may transfer well to the workplace?
- What is the definition of a stay at home mom?
- Are there any specific people who fight for women’s rights so they don’t have to be home makers?
- Are there any specific people who fight against women leaving the home for the workplace?
- What was Elizabeth Cady Stanton’s position on home making?
- What was Susan B. Anthony’s position on home making?
Some prior beliefs I have that might bias my research would be the fact that I’m religious. I belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and my religion loves the idea of stay at home moms when possible.
I was also raised in a home with a stay at home mother. Even on my father’s side, my step mother stayed at home while we were young and ran a day care program. I always had a mother who was home to monitor my siblings and me.
Before I begin my “working knowledge,” my take on home makers is that they are extremely necessary because kids need guidance. If they didn’t, the world wouldn’t need families. Families are the most fundamental units of society.
We have a letter framed near our dining room table that reads, “We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan. Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. ‘Children are an heritage of the Lord’ (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another… and be law abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations…
“By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners… Other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation…”
The letter is called “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” and it was written by the LDS church’s First Presidency and the Twelve Apostles in 1995.
I definitely agree that parents have a responsibility to nurture and take care of their children; they also need to make sure their children are law abiding citizens. I can’t tell you how many adults I know who say, “I’ve done what I could. They are who they are,” when asked about their children. We all know that most of those parents spend 40 hours a week at work and don’t spend time each day with their kids.
Sadly, I think my opinion is not the popular opinion. I really am interested to see what people of other cultures, religions, and backgrounds have to say on the subject.
One source I’ve looked in to reads, “Women who take time out of the workforce… pay a big career penalty. Only 74 percent of professional women will rejoin the workforce in any capacity, and only 40 percent will return to full-time jobs. Those who do rejoin will often see their earnings decrease dramatically.” This was said by Sheryl Sandberg in her book Lean In earlier this year. Sandberg was quoted in an article called Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom written by Ashley Nelson of The Nation Magazine.
Another negative Nancy, named Linda Hirshman, who wrote a book called Get to Work says, “Why would a congressman listen to someone whose life so resembles that of a toddler’s?” I enjoy the response from Nelson who forcefully commented in return, “Because I can vote!”
I look forward to researching more on the topic of stay at home mothers.